Wednesday, September 30, 2009

It is not virginity that kills – in fact quite the opposite.

Virginity is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give your spouse on your wedding day. To be able to say that for all this time I have waited for you, even before I knew you, is sublimely romantic. If we are not capable of saying “no,” what is our “yes” really worth? It is a diluted, degraded, and despoiled “yes.” Despite this, secondary virginity is possible. We can wrap our the gift of our sexuality once again and offer the gift to God. The gift of chastity is more easily lived when relying on the grace of God rather than our own efforts. Christopher Kiesling writes in his book, Celibacy, Friendship and Prayer,

“The expectations of human love between man and woman are tainted by the standards of a sensate, sex-saturated culture rather than derived from ideals of personal dignity and genuine love. Both answers presume that if a man and woman love one another, they must go to bed together, in marriage or outside of it. Yet millions of men and women go to bed together without any love for one another”.

He continues, “The drive towards it (sex) is so tremendously powerful that it wrecks the lives of individuals, families, and society unless it is regulated” (p. 187). People are even willing to murder for the sake of genital pleasure. With this in mind, the significance of chastity and virginity can be seen in their proper context: a matter of life and death. But it is not virginity that kills – in fact quite the opposite.

From "How Dangerous is Virginity?"

If we are straining and fall under the yoke and the burden, it's not God's!

God tells us that his yoke is easy and his burden is light. So, if we are straining and fall under the yoke and the burden, it's not God's...I don't mean that life is never hard or that our homes must always be filled with only sunshine and roses. But I still mean that if we are straining and falling and sinning under the strain of the yoke, it's not God's yoke...Yes, we will suffer, but I have learned that it is indeed possible to suffer joyfully. Burnout is not suffering joyfully.

I love this quote Jennifer at Conversion Diary put in her great article about discerning and overcoming burnout. It has a lot of great suggestions for many aspects of life. It's a good way to examine any area of life that is giving you problems, not just burnout.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Abortion hurts men, too! And "Being Human" on EWTN tonight

Below is from an email sent this morning by the 40 Days for Life staff. You can get these emails sent to you or read them on their blog at

I received a report from Houston that was both
eye-opening and heartbreaking.

People participating in the 40 Days for Life vigil
watched as a young man who appeared to be in tears
walked into Planned Parenthood with his girlfriend
and her mother.

When they left some time later, he was most certainly
crying -- and obviously quite upset.

I'll let one of the prayer vigil participants pick up
the story...

I watched him head down the street, alternating
between wiping the tears from his face and punching
the buildings in anger and frustration as he passed
them. Eventually he headed back toward the parking
lot. As he approached, I went to him first. All I
could think to say was that I was so very sorry for
his loss. He began to cry again.

Then a truck pulled up leaving the parking lot with
his girlfriend and her mother inside. The girl's
mother yelled at him to get in and cursed him as he
opened the door. He had one foot inside, then
stepped back out and closed the door. As she drove
away he promptly sat down on the curb and cried
like a baby. Three of us sat down beside him -- all
men -- and cried with him.

Eventually, he began to talk. He was probably in
his very early twenties. He told us that his
girlfriend did not want to keep the child because
she feared they would not be able to provide for
him. He asked her how she could destroy a life
based on a hunch. He told her this child had a
heartbeat and a soul and deserved to live. He even
tried to convince her to, at the very least, put
the child up for adoption.

I was struck by the fact that this young man knew
all this simply because his heart told him it was
true. He was wise well beyond his years and he was
hurting terribly.

I was struck by the clear reality that fathers have
so little to do with whether their own children
live or die. I also couldn't help but notice that
despite the high volume of Planned Parenthood
volunteers around, none of them approached him.

Before I left him, he stood up to hug me. All I
could tell him was what I truly believed -- that
today, his child knows that his/her father fought
for it. That to his child, he is a hero and that
someday he would know that also.

Please pray for this young man and others like him.
The tragedy of abortion is real and happening every
day. No one knows that better than he.

I sincerely hope this young man comes to embrace the
exceptional advice he was given; but that will most
certainly take time. I cannot even begin to imagine
the anguish.

This is a first-person account of what abortion does
to fathers. Who knows how many others have walked in
his shoes, as there are more than a million abortions
every year -- and more than 50 million since the 1973
Roe v. Wade decision that opened the floodgates to
abortion on demand.

Let's pray even harder!


The second installment of the Being Human television
series, hosted by 40 Days for Life campaign director
Shawn Carney, airs on the EWTN network at 6:30 PM
Eastern TODAY!

EWTN is on many cable and satellite systems, so
please look for this outstanding account of 40 Days
for Life, filmed by an Emmy-award-winning director.

* WHAT: "Being Human: 40 Days for Life"

* DATE: TONIGHT! Tuesday, September 29

* TIME: 6:30 PM Eastern (3:30 PM Pacific)

* WHERE: Eternal Word Television Network (EWTN) --
available in most markets

Watch a short preview online at:

Don't have cable or don't get EWTN?

You can watch the 30-minute documentary online at the
start time by visiting and then
selecting "Television" > "Live TV - English" from the
navigation menu at the top of the page.

Spread the word to all your friends, co-workers,
family members, and fellow believers about this
exciting show!

Friday, September 18, 2009

Friday Fun: The other side

It's been a while since we've had a little Friday Fun on this blog so when I got this email this week it had to be done.

Things you never think of:

You know, there are some things that you just never think of ...
like, Mt. Rushmore from the North Dakota side.

HA! So bad it's good. ;)

Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

12 Ways to Live a Life with No Regrets…

  1. Apologize quickly and sincerely as soon as you realize that you’ve wronged someone (particularly your parents and siblings).
  2. Never feel sorry for yourself (self-pity is another form of pride).
  3. Stay in control of your emotions.
  4. Never burn bridges behind you, in relationships.
  5. Nothing is ever gained by quitting.
  6. Remember, there are more people counting on you than you realize.
  7. Don’t forget that God is at work, even when you can’t see it. God is working right now, in ways you don’t know about.
  8. Love your family!
  9. Meet every day with prayer, praise, and God’s Word.
  10. Stay connected to the hearts of your family (particularly in a time of testing). To solve a problem with another person, soften your own heart first.
  11. Listen to those who love you, before making a life-changing decision.
  12. A good name is more valuable than great wealth.

2 Corinthians 7:10 “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret.”


This list was created as ways to teach your children, but I find it very applicable to my adult life as well.