Saturday, September 13, 2008

True intimacy

From Vunerable Enough to Praise: Part 4 of 5
By Sr. Mary Paul Friemel

True intimacy cannot exist without vulnerability. Intimacy is defined simply as “...very close association, contact, or familiarity...” and is “marked by a warm friendship developing through long association” (Webster-Miriam Online).

Relationship without intimacy is sterile. Intimacy without vulnerability is not possible. Vulnerability is to intimacy as water is to fish. You can’t have one without the other.

Vulnerability equals risk. Risk is scary because there is no guarantee that relationships will last or turn out to be what we imagine. Matters of the heart are highly emotional and can produce quite a bit of pain and discomfort. Risk is what is necessary to push through the fear rather than letting it paralyze your designs for a successful life. Therefore, one must push oneself to be vulnerable (risk) in order to gain ever-increasing levels of intimacy. Vulnerability is what feeds relationships so they continue to grow rather than wither and die (Kniffin).