Excerpt from Overcoming Pornography in Marriage
What many men fail to understand is that once they have fallen into the vice of pornography, it leads to the erosion and eventually to the destruction of their marriage. This is the result because pornography strikes at the very act that allows the two to become one and, quite simply, if we cannot become one, in its true sense, then we become a mockery of the authentic sign that signifies marriage.
God created man and woman, as husband and wife, to join together physically to become “one flesh.” This oneness was given to husband and wife not only to procreate but to celebrate a unity in their relationship, an opportunity to engage in an act that would bring about a closeness that nothing else can offer. In other words, the marital embrace was intended to allow the couple to experience a pleasure much like that in which the book of Proverbs states, “… and have joy of the wife of your youth, your lovely hind, your graceful doe. Her love will invigorate you always; through her love you will flourish continually” (Proverbs 5 18-19).
Yes, God gave us sex as a means of to foster new life and experience a sense of pleasure, and it is precisely why this is the key area that Satan wants to corrupt and eventually destroy marriage. More than 90% of the couples that my wife and I see in our marriage coaching are experiencing problems that stem from a sexual nature, which includes contraception, sterilization, sexual infidelity, and pornography. But again, my focus here is on pornography.